I think that moment when you first realise that you are going to be a mum is one of the life events that is burned into your memory, along with the actual birth of course! I’ll never forget the night I peed on a stick to learn that I would be a mum, and my life had changed forever.
I was a career girl, working in PR for big business but I was about to become a juggling mum… and I had no idea what that meant! This is the story of my own transition from career girl to juggle mum! As someone who likes to be organised, I try to prepare myself for most things in life. I anticipate what I think I am going to need to have or know and skill myself up so I can do the task. I feel in control when I know what’s coming and that I’m ready for it.
I approached the task of impending motherhood just like I would any other. I read books and magazine articles, I watched TV shows about parenthood and birth, I decorated the nursery and I went shopping! I was the first of my friendship group to have a baby so I couldn’t turn to them for advice, and I hadn’t made any ‘mum friends’ yet, but I was happy with my own research and felt prepared.
As a smart and efficient modern mum, it makes sense to get your house in order before the baby arrives, because once the little bundle is here, there won’t be as much free time! There are the obvious things to sort such as stocking up on nappies, packing a hospital bag and buying a pram, then there are the less obvious but just as important jobs like arranging life insurance and making a will.
Smart Insurance, known for their life insurance quotes have published an interactive ‘New Baby Checklist‘ that outlines the essentials for new parents and includes tips from mum bloggers who’ve been there and worn the t-shirt! It also gives you an idea of what sort of financial outlay is involved with childbearing. The tips are shared on a timeline starting from the first trimester of pregnancy right through to what you need to consider after the baby arrives.
If you are about to have your first child, then all I’d say is enjoy this time of anticipation as you will look back on it fondly. Try to take as many photos as you can, both of how you look now and of the new baby because you will love being able to go back to those chubby cheeks and remember how it was then – both yours and the baby’s! I know it isn’t easy to get loads of photos when you have everything else going on – we were bought a clock for our son’s christening gift that had a space for his photo next to each of the numbers so 1 is the child at one month old, 4 is the child at 4 months etc. This clock has photos of the first three months of my son’s life then there is a big gap and we don’t get round to doing another photo until he reaches 11 months! So it is easier said than done, but I do adore looking back on the photos I have of the children and seeing how much they’ve changed.
Becoming a mother is a huge transition and you can certainly get prepared on a practical level – use the checklist linked to above to get started! But nothing prepares you for the overwhelming love you feel for your baby. To look at them and know ‘I did that’. If you have another child, it is pure magic to watch them play together, interacting, and knowing that these two human beings exist because of you. If you enjoyed this post you may also like Roots and Wings and Since the day you were born which explains what my children have taught me about motherhood.
Have you got anything to add to this checklist from your experience? Let me know in the comments!
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