Being positive and intentional is a way of life and one that has served me well. Each day I set positive intentions, things I want to do or feel and then my mind is geared toward achieving that intention. I may not always get everything done or get the results I was expecting but I find that I get nearer than I would have had I not been as considered in my approach.
Did you set any positive intentions at the start of this year? How are they going? The month isn’t done yet so you can still get back on track if you think you have veered off course. You simply decide to. That’s such a small sentence with such a big impact! Decide to.
If you want to be the happiest person you know, decide to be.
If you want to shift some weight, decide to.
If you want to make more money, decide to. Then you will find a way.
If you set an intention and commit to it, you will live like you mean it. That’s another saying I love – live like you mean it. If you are going to be half hearted, what is the point? What’s the point of anything unless you do it with gusto?
Now maybe by now you are thinking, what does she know? It’s easy for her to say these things, she isn’t in my shoes. No I’m not, but I’m in my own, and in these shoes I have survived several bouts of depression (I haven’t taken an anti-depressant in 8 years now, but I have had a few different pills in my time!) I’ve shed 4 stone in weight, then put two and a half back on and am once again on my mission to rid myself of this excess that I simply don’t need anymore, and I have struggled with some disordered eating.
My whole adult life has been plagued by a food addiction that I’ve been so good at covering up. I’m generally a happy person right? It’s amazing what you can hide with a smile. All those depressed years – not many people outside my immediate circle knew! Pop a smile on and a breezy demeanour and people think you have it all sussed when you are crying inside and going home to comfort eat to fill the hole that is inside you and never seems to fill – no matter how much you eat.
So I don’t know your specific struggles but I have had few of my own, and I still say, decide to.
Start where you are right now. That’s the only place you can be, and start with gratitude. That’s how I did it. I started with gratitude.
Some days I couldn’t find anything to be grateful for – nothing was popping out as particularly fantastic, but I had a roof over my head. So that’s what I acknowledged. That helped me to see that to was sunny outside – big bonus! I may have hated my job, been in debt and not felt a deep connection with any of my friends at that time but I had my husband, my rock, my best friend. I could live in a cardboard box as long as it was with him.
Being positive and intentional is a daily habit now but habits have to be learned, so until it becomes natural, set yourself a reminder if you have to! I have all sorts popping up in my phone when I am trying to embed a new habit.
However I do have a disclaimer to make, positivity won’t always protect you. I learned this last year when my cousin died. I thought that I was pretty resilient and then I broke into pieces. The lights were on but nobody was home. I had thought that being positive and choosing to see the silver lining in any circumstance would get me through anything. Until it didn’t.
But once I could start to function again I reminded myself to go back to gratitude. This is where everything starts. I looked for the sunny day. I was thankful for the roof over my head. Bit by bit I clawed my way back. The last year has been a process. I think about my cousin all the time and last week in aerobics class I started to well up with tears, completely out of the blue. But I am finding it easier with time.
I’m sharing all this to help empower you. I’m a big believer that you can choose your attitude. So what are your positive intentions for this year? Let me know in the comments!