The older I get the more I realise that life is about balance. The light and the dark, the yin and the yang. It’s necessary to have the dark times to appreciate the light. And no-one or nothing is ‘all good’ or ‘all bad’. We have a mixture of both within us – it’s what makes us human.
2016 so far has been very reflective for me. I’ve been turning inward to find the answers I seek. Learning to honour that inner voice and trust that it knows what’s best. Then acting upon it. Whether that be daring to try the new thing that scares me or opening up on my blog in a real and honest way and allowing myself to be vulnerable. Our instinct is to protect the vulnerable and often this is by not showing it, but I’ve found that actually putting it out there and being willing to deal with the consequences is a source of real strength.
I’ve always intended for JuggleMum to be a happy place. This blog is a reflection of me, and I’m generally a positive, happy person. That isn’t to say that life is and always has been filled with unicorns and roses. There have been plenty of demons, depression, loss, self sabotage, rock bottoms and wheelbarrows upon wheelbarrows of top grade shit. Trust me. But each nugget of poison has contained a lesson, even when I couldn’t see it at the time and felt defeated.
The best way out of pain isn’t to deny it or ignore it. The best way is to go through it. Winston Churchill once said “When you are going through hell, keep going”.
When you are in the middle of a rocky period you are in survival mode. You just do what needs doing each day – what’s right in front of you until it’s passed. You don’t often realise how bad it actually was at the time until you are safely out of it. I think this is our natural preservation instinct, kicking in and protecting us.
I have learned that by turning inward and accepting all parts of myself that I can take that top grade shit and use it to grow beautiful roses. I’m human – I hurt at a cruel remark or when I feel mis-judged just like anyone else. But after a brief rant or feeling sorry for myself, or a good cry, now I analyse ‘what was it about that experience that bothered me?’ Did they touch a nerve? If so – why? What is it about myself that I can work on? Do I need to apologise or do I need to put forward my viewpoint? I don’t just get upset by the horrible person that did that / said that, I look for the lessons. By actively working out what is bothering me, i can find some peace and THIS is where the real healing is.
If life for you at the moment is happy and good then fantastic! Enjoy it and appreciate your gifts. If life for you at the moment is hard, exhausting or painful then keep going. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Practise kindness – to yourself and others. It’ll help get you through the day. Start a gratitude journal. Look for the glimmers of hope. It’ll help you notice more of them. This is how you pull yourself out of the darkness. This is how you create abundance.
If what I’m saying sounds too ‘hippy’ or ‘airy fairy’ for you then so what?! If it works, does that matter? Label it if you have to but then deal with that later – when the matter in hand is settled. THEN decide how you feel about it.
Springtime is about newness: new life, new blooms, clearing the dust of winter. Spring is about hope and transformation. The lives that we are living at the end of 2016 could be vastly different to the ones we are living now. Whatever happens, we are all moving forward. What are your plans for 2016? Let me know in the comments!
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