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Turning Inward

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The older I get the more I realise that life is about balance. The light and the dark, the yin and the yang. It’s necessary to have the dark times to appreciate the light. And no-one or nothing is ‘all good’ or ‘all bad’. We have a mixture of both within us – it’s what makes us human.

2016 so far has been very reflective for me. I’ve been turning inward to find the answers I seek. Learning to honour that inner voice and trust that it knows what’s best. Then acting upon it. Whether that be daring to try the new thing that scares me or opening up on my blog in a real and honest way and allowing myself to be vulnerable. Our instinct is to protect the vulnerable and often this is by not showing it, but I’ve found that actually putting it out there and being willing to deal with the consequences is a source of real strength.

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I’ve always intended for JuggleMum to be a happy place. This blog is a reflection of me, and I’m generally a positive, happy person. That isn’t to say that life is and always has been filled with unicorns and roses. There have been plenty of demons, depression, loss, self sabotage, rock bottoms and wheelbarrows upon wheelbarrows of top grade shit. Trust me. But each nugget of poison has contained a lesson, even when I couldn’t see it at the time and felt defeated.

The best way out of pain isn’t to deny it or ignore it. The best way is to go through it. Winston Churchill once said “When you are going through hell, keep going”.

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When you are in the middle of a rocky period you are in survival mode. You just do what needs doing each day – what’s right in front of you until it’s passed. You don’t often realise how bad it actually was at the time until you are safely out of it. I think this is our natural preservation instinct, kicking in and protecting us.

I have learned that by turning inward and accepting all parts of myself that I can take that top grade shit and use it to grow beautiful roses. I’m human – I hurt at a cruel remark or when I feel mis-judged just like anyone else. But after a brief rant or feeling sorry for myself, or a good cry, now I analyse ‘what was it about that experience that bothered me?’ Did they touch a nerve? If so – why? What is it about myself that I can work on? Do I need to apologise or do I need to put forward my viewpoint? I don’t just get upset by the horrible person that did that / said that, I look for the lessons. By actively working out what is bothering me, i can find some peace and THIS is where the real healing is.

If life for you at the moment is happy and good then fantastic! Enjoy it and appreciate your gifts. If life for you at the moment is hard, exhausting or painful then keep going. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Practise kindness – to yourself and others. It’ll help get you through the day. Start a gratitude journal. Look for the glimmers of hope. It’ll help you notice more of them. This is how you pull yourself out of the darkness. This is how you create abundance.

If what I’m saying sounds too ‘hippy’ or ‘airy fairy’ for you then so what?! If it works, does that matter? Label it if you have to but then deal with that later – when the matter in hand is settled. THEN decide how you feel about it.

Springtime is about newness: new life, new blooms, clearing the dust of winter. Spring is about hope and transformation. The lives that we are living at the end of 2016 could be vastly different to the ones we are living now. Whatever happens, we are all moving forward. What are your plans for 2016? Let me know in the comments!

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Comments to Turning Inward

  • Fabulous post, I suffer with Fibromyalgia so it feels like every day is a pile of rubbish but I keep on going, enjoying those moments that make everything ok, laughing when I can and being silly when possible. I take most comments seriously even though I shouldn’t but you have some sound advice in this post, I shall absorb and use. x

    The Mummy Diary 25th April 2016 11:16 am Reply
    • I have a close family members who suffers with that too so I empathise with your struggle. All any of us can ever do is take the next 60 seconds at a time. I’m glad the post was helpful. x

      Nadine Hill 25th April 2016 4:35 pm Reply
  • I made a big change with my life last week and today I’m just trying to deal with the fallout from that decision. I know in the long run it’s going to make so difference so I shall just try to ride out this current storm. By the way it’s a business decision!

    nessjibberjabberuk 25th April 2016 2:51 pm Reply
    • I hope your business decision proves profitable for you. Sometimes we have to ride out these storms but it gets clearer in the end.

      Nadine Hill 25th April 2016 4:31 pm Reply
  • Thanks for sharing this reflective post. As you become older and have more responsibilities you realise that the only option is to keep going and take one day at a time. I think that everyone ends up being a stronger and better person after the hardship is over but it isn’t easy to get there at times is it? Here’s to 2016 and lots of new opportunities x

    Izzie Anderton 25th April 2016 3:38 pm Reply
    • I second that! Thanks for commenting x

      Nadine Hill 25th April 2016 4:31 pm Reply
  • Such an honest post and great advice. I am generally a positive person, taking all the hits and keep on going. I’m going through a rough patch at the moment, and putting one foot in front of the other is what I’m failing at, literally! Maybe I need to take your advice, there has to be something positive I can take from all of this, even if it’s just having to slow down.

    Anne 25th April 2016 4:40 pm Reply
    • It’s hard Anne, letting go sounds the easiest thing in the world to do but is often the most difficult. Maybe try to re-frame your thoughts…. You are not failing at putting one foot in front of the other – you just found another way that didn’t work for you! Now you can focus on uncovering the way that does work. Good luck with it all, and maybe you answered your own question with the two words at the end. x

      JuggleMum, Nadine Hill 26th April 2016 7:27 am Reply
  • My mum always says to keep on truckin’, and that’s pretty much what I do. I’m forever knocked back by things, sometimes I learn the lesson straightaway, other times I don’t, and sometimes I’m still trying to figure it out. I’m sure I’ll get there in the end, but until then, I’ll keep on truckin’!

    Michelle 25th April 2016 7:25 pm Reply
    • Definitely keep on truckin’ Michelle! I say to myself, keep on keeping on. Every challenge we have contains a lesson. Every lesson is an opportunity to learn about ourselves. I think we are all worth the dig.

      Nadine Hill 26th April 2016 7:23 am Reply
  • What a mature and deep post, it takes wisdom and experience of life to be able to turn inwards like this and use it as a strength to push forward. I hope the year pans out well for you.

    Fiona Cambouropoulos 25th April 2016 10:42 pm Reply
    • Thank you Fiona. I’m also finding that the older I get the more I like myself, as the more I know myself. Thank you for commenting.

      Nadine Hill 26th April 2016 7:18 am Reply
  • Love this post! I find the older I get the better I get at knowing myself and acknowledging my successes as well as learning from my failures.

    Sonya Cisco 26th April 2016 10:08 am Reply
  • You have to have the dark to see the stars. This is what I tell myself. The older I get the more I realise what is important to me and how to find balance

    Jen Walshaw (@Mum_TheMadHouse) 26th April 2016 11:12 pm Reply
  • Great post, like you I am generally a happy and positive person and just get on with it when things go bad, but I have my moments when it all gets on top of me and I need a rant or a good cry. See you on Sunday xx

    Kara Guppy 27th April 2016 1:19 pm Reply
    • See you Sunday – I am looking forward to it!! x

      Nadine Hill 29th April 2016 4:43 pm Reply
  • Beautiful, encouraging post, Nadine. I do find life hard most days but I also try really hard to keep positive and find motivation to find my happy. Being kind to myself has been a big lesson and it has helped enormously in dealing with my feelings.xx

    oana79 27th April 2016 9:53 pm Reply
    • Sometimes it is hard to see a silver lining, as much as we want to. I guess when life is like that all we can ever do is keep hoping that there is one and we will see it eventually. xx

      Nadine Hill 29th April 2016 4:44 pm Reply
  • Yep I totally agree with this… Just keep on going. My plans for 2016 are to get to my goal weight (I’ve no idea what it is yet) I’ve lost 3 stone so far and am really on a journey to a much healthier me 🙂 xx

    Sonia 28th April 2016 12:15 pm Reply
    • You’re doing great! Well done!

      Nadine Hill 29th April 2016 4:45 pm Reply
  • keep gin given when the road is rocky

    Ninjacat 29th April 2016 7:31 am Reply
  • Even keep going when the road is rocky ..

    I am laughing at keep Gin

    Ninjacat 29th April 2016 7:32 am Reply
    • Lol!

      Nadine Hill 29th April 2016 4:40 pm Reply
  • Lovely post Nadine, full of great ideas and truth. I’ve been changing a few things myself recently and it is amazing how a little change can add up to a big difference. This week has been like a tired fog and everything has broken on me, but just had the loveliest bike ride and pub lunch, puts it all in perspective! Sorry to comment so late – the week has been silly and I’ve been practising this very thing, being kind. Thanks for joining #happyandhome x

    Penny 1st May 2016 2:09 pm Reply
    • Thanks for commenting Penny and no need whatsoever to apologise! You are not late – you are right on time and I’m grateful that you stopped by and gifted me with your comment. I love your #happyandhome linky, it’s one of my favourites. x

      Nadine Hill 2nd May 2016 9:50 am Reply
  • Enjoyed reading this and it’s honesty, keep on going and do what’s right for you #happyandhome

    Stephanie Robinson 1st May 2016 9:37 pm Reply
    • Thank you Stephanie. It’s nice to hear I have connected.

      Nadine Hill 2nd May 2016 9:48 am Reply
  • I think at times we all need to look at ourselves and learn, change and grow. sounds like you’re doing a great job

    tanya 4th May 2016 10:41 pm Reply
    • That’s a nice comment – thank you.

      Nadine Hill 5th May 2016 9:19 am Reply
  • Such a great reflective post Nadine, very honest too. You’re right we all have to just get on with it don’t we, even if we really don’t want to. It’s very true, I think things have greater meaning when you get older – perhaps that’s because we know what the implications might be. It’s good to be a unicorn but I do have a tendency to escape with my camera outdoors if I need to regroup. I find writing about the pretty easier than writing about a really shite week! Lovely to see you last weekend x

    Charly Dove 9th May 2016 5:14 pm Reply
    • Aww lovely to see you Charly and thank you for your lovely comment x

      Nadine Hill 10th May 2016 2:29 pm Reply

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